Adoption101
by V. Martin (a foster kid all grown up)
Adopting a foster kid is a big deal and mostly unappreciated by the children themselves. Indeed these kids need a home but all they want is their own. It's hard to imagine a child with no one in the world expecting anything from anyone least of all those that make promises that hinge on having their expectation met. Expecting these children to be anything other then terrified is too much. They will disappoint you every time because they are in no position to fulfill anything least of all what they know nothing about. It doesn't matter how kind and giving you are they will not respond the way you want. Try a different approach, try just letting them be, let them come to you but open yourself to figuring out when that happens because it won't be obvious. They can't come right out with it for so many reason that I won't name here.
By any means necessary. Does that go for us too? We need to live our lives by any means necessary even when society is telling us to die by any means necessary. No more killing ourselves just because we have no one because we do have people a lot of people actually, everyone whose been in or getting out of the foster care system are our brothers and sisters. Granted most don't make it to a ripe old age but I'm hoping that will change. No, what I really want to change is the foster care syastem itself. First I want to rename it something like The Cultural Exchange Center for Independent Students. Maybe anything but foster, the word itself leaves a bad taste in my mouth. The system simply needs to evolve so these kids can too. So society can too. These kids already don't stand a chance labeling them foster kids is adding insult to injury.
Too many have already fallen through the cracks and along with them any controbutions they may of had. If we can't give the at risk families the support they need, especially when they ask for it, to keep their family together then we haven't progressed at all. Prevention should be the word of the century because the foster care system can be prevented. Just like the prison system they kind of lead into one another.
Our judicial system we brag that it is the best in the world no matter how flawed. So does that mean we maintain it as it is? Or what about finding ways to make it better.
As a society we have had to face the countless inoccent people we have imprisoned recently. They used the pandemic to release them but in fact they were probably foster kids that falsely confessed. For a cop the confession was everything because they were under the impression that no one inocent confesses. I hope we now understand that is not true. It's hard for people to imagine anyone wanting to go to prison for something they didn't do. Well, foster kids do. Prison is home for a lot of them, a roof, 3 square meals, all the company they can handle, and a weird kind of respect from the other prisoners. In prison foster kids are mostly left alone because they aren't in there for any thing they did. On the contrary and the other prisoners are aware of this and don't bother them mainly because they have had it bad enough already. Not to mention they may need a scape goat themselves one day.
We have no respect for society and it's treatment of its most vulnerable citizens, it's hidden in plain sight prejudices against those society deems undesirable. They have us all wrong and no one benefits. As a matter of fact if we don't erradicate prejudices, ignorence, and hate on every level prejudices will never go away at least not the violent kind. My priority is foster kids and foster adults, these people are my family and everything I am and have will go to them when I'm gone, including my reputation and position in society. The position hasn't been created yet but I am your biggest advocate and a chance for a better future without being a foster kid. Even though I know we are not the problem society wants to make us out to be, none of that makes sense so we must take a closer look at these agencies, institutions, churches, independent group homes or any place we put these kids for safe keeping because they are not safe. Our fall from grace starts with these places and there is a reason they want society to believe we cause most of the crimes, our false confessions don't help either. Some how they benifit from these false campaigns to make us into stupid, dangerous, nothing to lose, loser, drug addicts, and theifs. Some people are mean just to be mean because they can, it makes them feel better, more powerful about themselves hurting someone more vunlnerable. Of course there are always those expectations that we never meet that might create some enemies.
As a future foster parent just be honest because if there is one thing a foster kids know and that's when they are being lied to and at that point it is all over. If you don't think these kids have a right to be treated humanely and with respect then you should not become a foster parent. If you think these kids have no right to question anyone that they should unquestionably believe what ever bullshit you tell them? You should not be a foster parent. If think we are just a burden with nothing to give you should not be a foster parent. If you have expectations, outside the ones you already discussed don't be a foster parent. If you are looking for a free baby sitter and/or house keeper you should hire a professional.
Adoption301Advanced
By V. Martin
Let's hope to God I'm wrong but the more I research and think about it the more I'm convinced that insurance money is involved in what pushes the machine.
Think about it; a family finatially in trouble, bills piled high. What could possibly be the answer that won't cost your family anything? Oh, I know, a foster kid. Not only do you get paid for putting up with this reject you get to be added to a life insurance policy that the state pays for and only stops when the child dies. Oh happy day, the life expectancy is so short its like money in the bank.
That's right, you heard me correctly, life insurance policy carries all foster parents and adopted parents until that child dies. No wonder the cycle never ends. It's way too profittable to try and actually solve this problem and with out people no one is going to care; except me and all I have is all the children that are still alive and the ones that aren't. These are my people and they deserve the best and that is what I am going to give them.
So if you are a priest, a Boy Scout, a detention worker, a foster parent, a pedophile, and/or any predator that preys on children; you are on notice to find something else to do. You are no longer tolerated, you are no longer going to find it easy to live amounst those that value their children. You have no place in society because society has deemed all people valuable but those that destroy the lives of the innocent. No more does society turn its back on those less fortunate, it is these people that need society the most. Society will gain strength and resources that previously it lacked due to its inability to recognisze real value way beyond monetary. No longer will we put material things above human beings. No longer will anything on the planet be worth more then the living creature that occupy it, including animals and humans. No longer will we be lazy!!
There may not be a lot I know but the one thing I do know beyond a shadow of a doubt and that is human nature and what it is telling me is that it has no intentions of changing. It does not intend to bow down to Mother Nature. Oh hell no! We bow to no one! Well, Mother Nature isn't just anyone she is who rules on this 3rd rock from the sun. lol.
It's obvious that society means to do nothing different to save us all so fuck it, everybody it's business as usual. All the effort we made to get through this difficult time was for not.
